Galatians 4:19- Oh, my dear children! I feel as if I’m going through labor pains for you again, and they will continue until Christ is fully developed in your lives.
Never have I understood the cry of Paul’s heart from his writings more than in this current season of my life. The personal agony that I feel has become a tutor to my spiritual maturity in ways that if I’m honest, I’d rather not endure. However, in the midst of wanting the pain to cease, the love of Christ compels me to continually trust His process as He highlights one thing… FAMILY.
My pastor taught me that “Revival is messy.” If that’s true, which I believe it is, that means that the revival in our families is going to be messy too. Think about it! There’s never been a moment in our existence where the Father didn’t focus all of His attention on family. And because of that reality, Satan has come against it from the very beginning. Family is what causes revival to spread! God designed family to be the ultimate weapon against the forces of evil on the earth. It’s also the only way to spread the truth of the Kingdom from generation to generation and from nation to nation. But when Adam and Eve sinned, all families became trapped in a cycle of brokenness.
We need help! Do you know that the only way to break a dysfunctional cycle aka curse, is to become the curse? And that’s exactly what Jesus did (Galatians 3:13). He was birthed into a broken world and joined a broken family. Jesus connected to a dysfunctional lineage and broke the power of the curse from the inside. Now, none of us have any excuses why God can’t completely deliver us and our families from the bondage of brokenness. This is wonderful news isn’t it? Of course it is!
Yet, we must be aware that in order to keep the brokenness and curses from returning to our families, we need one vital ingredient… LOVE! But before you relate that word with sweet and sappy emotions, you must understand the type of love I’m speaking about. I’m talking about the Proverbs 3:11-12 & Hebrews 12:7-12 type of love. It’s a disciplinary-love that keeps us from falling into the same unproductive patterns of our ancestors. For some, especially in our feel-good society, this is a curse word. But I assure you this is one of the most profound aspects of love we can experience. This is the love of God that legitimizes you and I as sons and daughters. This love deals with the immaturity in us that tends to deceive us or allow us to be easily deceived by the enemy.
Trust me, I understand that some may have abused or have been abused by the misappropriation of loving discipline, but this is something God established for family and through family way before it was misrepresented. The truth is, we need family. The reality is, family is messy. Family is a powerful thing and still such a fragile thing. Must of us spend our lives trying to avoid family, because of the pain we’ve experienced in one. But we have to stop avoiding the pain in the relationships that have the most purpose connected to them. Just because pain hurts doesn’t mean it’s bad. It proves we’re alive! It proves we’re connected! And it can teach us a lot about ourselves by how we respond to it.
In John 14:6, Jesus tells us that no one can get into a relationship with the Father until they connect to Him as the Son. This means, you can’t get into the Kingdom without getting into the family. NO MORE AVOIDING FAMILY! NO MORE AVOIDING GOD’S LOVE THROUGH DISCIPLINE! Don’t let fear drive you away from the type of love that proves you belong to a family! If God rebukes you, it means you play a part in the relationship. When He confronts you about an issue, it’s not to control but to connect hearts. We must never look as the Father’s correction as rejection. Jesus corrected Peter and he always knew that he was loved and that he belonged. One more thing, if you’re easily offended it means you’re immature in your understanding of God’s love. Read and meditate on 1 Corinthians 13. It’ll help you grow strong in this type of love.
Lastly, you and I will never have a perfect family, but we’ll always have perfect heavenly Father.